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Best Year Ever(Intro). What Does It Mean? How To Achieve It.

Four Daily Planners

What does it mean to have your ‘Best Year Ever’?  Can you plan to have such a year, or is it a year when the stars align to deliver unimaginable luck. To me, a great year is one in which you meet all or most of your aspirational goals. My belief is that you can create your best year ever, but, there is a catch, it takes years, to pull all the elements together. I’ll explain how I made mine and give you the links and tools to create yours.

At the start of 2017, I set five ambitious goals for the year.  They were:

  • Secure a promotion

  • Travel to Norway

  • Publish

  • Repair and remodel house

  • Take up a martial art

 

There were also two minor goals that I also wanted to work toward:

  • Have a successful art show

  • Learn a second language

 

Of the seven goals, I fully completed three (Promotion, Travel, Art Show), partially did two (remodel my house and learn a new language ), still continue to work on one (Publish) and totally failed in even starting to learn a martial art.  These post document what I did or learned along the way.

Originally, I’d intended to make it one long post but the message was muddled and no part had enough information to help anyone. I will instead do a  series.  Along the way, you’ll notice text that is both underlined and italicized.  These are “Key Tips”.  If you decide not to read everything (your loss) then at least digest these key tips.

 

Key Tip 1: Write your goals where you can see them often.

Key Tip 2: Shut up about your goals

 

For the first time in my life, I wrote the yearly goals at the front of my daily planner.  I have no choice but to see them often and I’m not overwhelmed because of the small number. No, this doesn’t mean that I succeeded at all but neither did I forget any.

The usual advice is to share goals with friends so you can be accountable.  Unfortunately, for a portion of the population, talking about a goal and accomplishing it gives the same psychological reward. Translation: By talking about it, you decrease the possibility that you will do it.   I belong to that group so I keep my mouth shut.    

How to set goals properly is a whole other post. In fact, one of the main reasons that you will fail at your New Year’s Resolutions is because they were poorly created.  For instance; you didn’t create a process to meet them, you didn’t schedule a time to get them done;  you relied on ‘motivation’ to get you through or worse, you didn’t see the other tiny habits that were a roadblock to the ultimate goal. The resource section at the end, will give you further insight on how to construct goals, and correctly use motivation.

Finally, I’m writing this series so that I have a permanent record of the mindset, procedures, and tools used to create a phenomenal year.  It is my hope that you’ll join me every month and take away some bit of information that through small, steady application will transform you for the better.

Suksess for deg!!

 

NEXT MONTH: Getting Promoted

Resources:

https://jamesclear.com/goal-setting

 

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-clear/forget-about-setting-goal_b_11917864.html

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8

How to Impress A Woman on Valentine’s Day When You Are Broke .

“Blow me a kiss from across the room

Old time romance

Say I look nice when I’m not

Touch my hair as you pass my chair

Little things mean a lot

Give me your arm as we cross the street

Call me at six on the dot

A line a day when you’re far away

Little things mean a lot

Don’t have to buy me diamonds and pearls

Champagne, sables or such

I never cared much for diamonds and pearls

Cause honestly honey, they just cost money

Give me your hand when I’ve lost the way

Give me your shoulder to cry on

Whether the day is bright or gray

Give me your heart to rely on …..”

Kitty Kallen – Little Things Mean A Lot

All the way back in 2013, I wrote a post called 5 Ways to impress a woman on Valentine’s Day …. Even if you are Broke and Clueless.  It has become one of the most popular posts on this blog.   This is probably because a whole bunch of men find themselves both broke and clueless at the very time of year that there is a major emphasis on spending money.  Well, time has passed, and for those of you who are broke, clueless, cheap fiscally retentive or any combination thereof, I’m adding ONE more.

I’ve decided to follow the same format as in the previous post, so here goes.

Material List (What you need) A small notebook, preferably something with colour on the cover. A pen (Duh!) and any kind of coloured marker, pencils or pens.

What To Do:  Each day before Valentine’s write something that you love or appreciate about the object of your affection.  Is she really tall, really short, have a ridiculous laugh, specializes in malapropisms, etc. Is she really kind to animals, volunteers often, takes care of her granny? Are there things about herself that makes her confidence falter but that you accept or even find endearing ( a big belly, perhaps? Careful this is for experts only.) All of these are starting points, to express your love.

You could also just crib from me – since I cribbed from someone else – and fill in the blanks on this list:

I appreciate how you …….

You look great wearing …..

You make me happy

I get turned on when you…..

I love you so very much

Now, using pens, coloured markers or pencils, draw little hearts, flowers and kisses.  If you don’t have any real artistic talent and draw like a 4th grader, even better.  Love can always use a touch of silliness.

All done, wrap it up and hand over. Expect smiles if she’s not a hardcore gold digger. Let me just say that this works best if you’ve been dating more than three months.  If you’ve never spoken to her in your life then this just seems stalker-ish.

Points: Plus 10 points if you write some original poetry

             Plus 5 if you copy some song lyrics created at least 20 years before you were born

            Minus 10 points if you misspell her name.

             Instant Death if you give it to the wrong girlfriend.

All the best this Valentine’s Day.

Five Tips for Learning to Surf after 40

This is a guest post from Jay Recinto from Warm Winds Surf Shop on  Rhode Island. While I’m an avid snorkeler, I’ve never tried surfing but I’m willing to listen to what an expert says on the topic.  Here’s Jay.  There’s a saying that, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” A lot of middle-aged men […]

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Life’s Simple Pleasures

Moon Over Montague Beach

Every now and then I dedicate a post to little pleasures that; if they do not bring joy then they at least help me  get through the day. BTW:  I had planned to write a post on the value of mediocrity but it came out stilted and preachy, so I abandoned it in favour of […]

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How To Get Publicity for Your Art Show

Sea Urchin teapot with wooden parts

Getting people to come to an art show is almost an art in itself.  So where ever you are and whatever your artistic medium, consider this a quick and dirty guide to getting eyes on your work Our second woodturning show opened to the public at Doongalik Studios on 28th February, 2016. The show was […]

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